It happened. It happened to me. I never thought it would.
But how?! Was it my text? The way I responded? Maybe I seemed too over-eager to meet up. I tend to get a little excited about new relationships.
This was my first time, I thought I did everything right. We met at a party and hit it off right away. We kept in touch every now and again and exchanged facebook friend requests. Then one night, after finding the courage in 3 glasses of wine, I sent a text asking to meet up and it worked! We set a date and time and double confirmed the details. The day came and I could barely contain my excitement. I showered, shaved and even put on my new fall booties. I anxiously awaited by the door as the time neared closer to the hour you said you were arriving but you never came. You never showed up. You never rescheduled. You never even cancelled!
Yes, I got stood up…on a date… on a play date.
I normally don’t do play dates. The thought of sitting in a stranger’s house while our kids play and leave us to small chit chat is excruciating. Especially when there is no wine involved. I went with my daughter to one birthday party/ play date and it was probably the worst thing ever. I’m not sure which was more painful, the fact that each and every kid at the party had a melt down or that people assumed I was the 18 year old babysitter hired to help.
Yea, play dates aren’t really my thing.
But they almost were…last year at a party, I met a girl that I had gone to high school with. I found out she had a son who is close in age with my daughter and immediately we hit it off. By the end of the night, we had decided we should get together; the kids could run themselves tired while we drank wine and complained about them running wild.
It sounded like a dream play date come true.
Basically, I tend to get really overly excited when I meet new people. I am that over-eager friend. When you say, “we should get together soon” I respond with, “how about tomorrow”? Yea, I’m one of those people. Making friends out of college is a tough task. You no longer have drinking buddies or Sunday brunch besties. As you each begin to start new jobs and get married, you are lucky if you keep 2-3 friends from college. Sure, you can make work friends but all you really have in common is work and all you probably do is bitch about your boss. So to say that I was a tad excited for this meet up is a bit of an understatement. For this play date I went out and bought a cheese spread…Yes, A MOTHER FUCKING CHEESE SPREAD.
This was serious.
Our guests were to arrive at 2pm and confirmed earlier that morning we were still on. I did some last minute cleaning, brushed my dogs so they were less smelly then before and sat patiently on the couch awaiting their arrival….
2:00 ….Ok, it’s time! I’m sure they will be here any minute now.
2:15….silly me, nobody arrives right on time, she is probably just being fashionably late.
2:30….Maybe they stopped to pick up some desserts.
2:35….They must have hit a detour in the road
2:40…I hope they arn’t dead
2:45…They are definitely dead
2: 50…I’ll send a text
Text : Hey! Are you guys on your way?!
3:00…No response
3:15…Ok, Seriously this is rude, the cheese is melting
3:20...I’ll start an episode of Scandal while I’m waiting
3: 30…Shit, I ate all of the cheese
4:00…Fuck it, I’m changing out of my bra and watching NetFlix
4:30…Drank entire bottle of wine and fell asleep
Can you believe I never received a response or cancellation from this girl?
Look, when a man stands you up on a date it’s expected because men are douche bags, but women, women know to cancel plans. They either reschedule or come up with a half believable excuse as to why they can’t make it. This girl straight up just went missing in action. I even kept an eye on the news in case I heard about a mother and son that were taken hostage!
For two days I had no idea what happened or if this girl was even still alive. Lucky for me, the world is small and I found out she planned a birthday party for her son the same day as our play date was scheduled.
Ok? Weird? Maybe she forgot about the birthday party? Some people might forget a planned birthday party for their kid…right? But still, shoot me a simple text like, HEY-gotta reschedule, totes forgot my kid’s birthday party is today!
WHAT IS THAT? Why are people so damn weird?! I got a cheese spread for crying out loud!
At least Addison sees right through the bullshit. When I asked about her thoughts on being ditched on her first play date, this is what she said,
“This whole situation is awkward and so is that kid’s mom.”
Well said.
That Girl Ryan 
If nothing else she should have at least showed up for the cheese spread. No cheese spread should ever go to waste!
Agreed, cheese spread is worth it. Dont worry it wasnt wasted i ate it all by myself.
That is such a relief. I would have had you send me the remains if they weren’t taken care of.
Ben’s sidewayness is freaking me out.
LOL. This all sounds so familiar. I’m one of those people, too. I would make a chicken salad and cookies and be sure to wipe all the ick off of my kids’ toys. I would even pick up the yard. And then, sometimes, they wouldn’t show up. Like your child, mine always took it better than I did. I’m hoping some of my daughter’s advanced nonchalance will rub off on me some day. At least you didn’t share your cheese spread with the unworthy. 🙂
I’m so relived to hear that it’s happened to other people! lol. I took it too personally. I think eating all that cheese by myself was probably the highlight of the day. HA!
That you’re that person who gets overly excited when you meet a new potential friend is totally shocking. That’s sarcasm, by the way. You’re handling this much better than I would. I’d be pretty pissed off that somebody stood my little girl up like that without the courtesy of a phone call or text. She could have at least been dead or something. A birthday party? Weak.
Agreed. The only way she could ever get out of standing us up is if she was dead. Otherwise she is a loser. I’m so offended somebody would lead us on like that. Me and Addison are a cool duo to hang out with.